Leaders Do Not Have to Be Loud
There is more to being a leader than just being loud and visible.
I love being the spectator at a sporting event searching for the players who are true leaders on their team. What always amuses me is that my definition of who a leader is differs from the average fan and spectator who are all scattered in the bleachers around me.
Typically, especially in the male sports world, the player who is the loudest and most outspoken is characterized as the leader. I call these the RAH RAH players. They like to lead the pregame huddles and they like to try to pump everyone up with a boost of adrenaline and a spirited “let’s go!”
Every team usually has these types of players and I want to stress that they are an essential part of the team dynamic. Yet, these are not the leaders I am looking for.
Leaders are the ones who are poised and in control whether they are winning, losing, or struggling. Leaders are the ones who calmly reassure teammates when they are struggling. Leaders do not become complacent when winning; they understand that they are not alone and are team players.
I once had the honor of coaching an amazing soccer player whose leadership skills were quite abundant despite not being one of the best players on our team. I will always remember the time when she completed her 2 mile run, grabbed a quick drink, and then jogged off to run the last 50-100 yards together with various teammates who were struggling with finishing the run.
A leader’s talk is often quiet while their actions exemplify the greatest of encouragement, determination, and resilience in a positive contagious fashion.
So…
When I am a spectator I look for the leaders. I look for the players who understand that every single person MUST be a leader in their own way; I look for the ones who will bring out the leadership qualities that are unique with their other teammates.
Leadership is not about who is the best, the loudest, or the most confident. Leadership is about being comfortable with who you are. Leadership is about wanting to be better and helping others be better. True leaders have a warrior spirit with a humble soul.
I challenge you to expand your understanding of what leadership means. I challenge you to embrace that we are all called to be leaders in our own unique way.
Keep working hard. Be resilient.
